Kissing isn’t merely rubbing your lips against your partner’s, it involves an intricate and carefully, but seemingly naturally, executed set of actions that have your nerve endings come alive to form beautiful magic. A good kiss is a precursor to an eventual sex almost as surely as a bad kiss mean never hooking up again, especially after a first date.
You may be the perfect gentleman — taking her to a fancy restaurant with expensive wine, opening doors for her, playing out your carefully planned date, romancing her with sweet talks — but if that first kiss is a saliva-filled, wide-mouthed strangulation topped off with an inappropriate placement of hands, all that romancing may simply have been for naught.
Kissing is not only arousing, but also romantic and intimate. A good kiss sets off fireworks in your partner’s head and the memory of it can last a lifetime. Here are 3 tips to make you a better kisser and hook up more.
Bad Breath Drives Away A Good Kiss
A survey by Philips Sonicare found that bad breath is the most common turn-off on a first date. And while garlic bread or chilly chicken with onion may certainly make for a delicious meal, tasting it off someone else’s mouth is definitely not a turn-on.
There is also a medical condition of bad breath called Halitosis which causes unpleasant odors to emanate from your mouth when you exhale. While the causes of it may be wide and varied, the underlying fact remains that it stems from poor personal hygiene — which is not exactly an inviting personality. A big turn-off all the more! No woman dreams of dating a guy who cannot take care of himself.
To avoid suck awkward circumstances as having your partner repulsed by your bad breath, aside from what you already know, like brushing your teeth twice daily and getting a dentist appointment every few months, there are a number of things you can do when you’re out on a date. Drink as much water as possible. Dehydration, according to medical research, can lead to dry mouth and ultimately bad breath. Having a mint or mouth freshener before you plant a kiss can also help mask the foul smell. Cinnamon gums have also been found to possess antibacterial effects that kill bad breath.
Besides your breath, as long as we’re on the subject of olfactory senses, spraying on a deodorant or a perfume greatly helps to set the mood. A good body scent is intoxicating and arousing, especially when your sexual senses are at their most active state.
Rough Lips And Forceful Kisses Are A Definite No-no
With high quality lip balms just a couple of dollars away, having rough lips is absolutely unacceptable. There’s nothing more thrilling than intimately rubbing, caressing and kissing your partner’s soft, slightly moist lips. Parched lips can easily be done away with by increasing your fluid intake.
Being too forceful can also be a turn-off. Shoving your tongue down her throat even when there’s no heat yet, or excessive sucking may only lead to the dreaded phrase ‘can we do this some other time?’
When you kiss, be gentle. Take it slow, kiss her softly, and let the passion find its own momentum. Don’t start off with your mouth wide open as though you’re trying to eat her. Begin with closed lips; it’s sweet, decent and sensual. Caress her hair with your hand and hold her tightly around her waist as you progress.
Kissing With The Eyes, Tongue And Saliva
You may close your eyes when you kiss, but you must make deep eye contact as you build up to the kiss. This establishes an intimate, sometimes passionate, bond between the two of you and greatly helps increase the pleasure of the kiss. Looking in the eyes of your partner before and after a kiss indicates trust and a deep attraction for the other.
As far as the tongue is concerned, always start by gently licking your partner’s lips. As you build momentum, move into your partner’s mouth, caressing his or her tongue and moving on to gentle flicking movements. The tongue is a powerful tool with endless possibilities.
There’s a reason they call it a ‘warm, wet kiss’. Imagine a long, yet dry kiss — how uncomfortable that must be. A kiss should always include saliva, both yours and your partner’s. But don’t overdo it. Don’t force it. Let the saliva come on its own, and if or when it’s too much, you can always swallow it right after you take a breath. A little moisture is nice, but drowning in spit is not.
‘We close our eyes when we pray, cry or kiss because the most beautiful things in life are not seen, but felt only by the heart’, so goes the popular saying. A kiss is beautiful and at times magical. It is a gateway to the most pleasurable experience in the world, the essential step to an endless possibility. Mastering the art of kissing will not only give you a healthy dating life, but also win you many more hookups!