If a man wants to remain in a casual relationship, he should try to avoid relationship discussions that a woman typically wants to talk about. Many women are in uncommitted relationships with men for one reason: to get him to commit to her. She is not there just to be your friend. In fact, not many women are willing to hang out with a guy or date continuously for no apparent reason. A lady wants to know that she will be getting somewhere substantial with you or else she will get out of the relationship. If a lady is determined to be with you however, you might have a tough time deflecting relationship talk. This is where your cleverness has to step in. You have to make some drastic adjustments in keeping your relationship on a casual course. Your aim is to make your relationship casual, fun and simple. The only way to do this is to deflect relationship topics.
Here are some great ways to weasel your way out of the relationship talk
Avoid deep conversations
There should be no heart-to-heart discussions or ‘opening up’ conversations. These sensitive topics can stir emotions that you don’t want to bring up. Emotional topics are not good for simple and casual relationships. Do not have any deep conversations that will have her cuddling up to you. You are not there to share heart feelings or to give comfort, warmth or advice. Your aim is to direct a casual relationship.
Avoid talking about and introducing her to your relatives
Talking about relatives can get intimate. You should try to share as little as possible about yourself and family as possible. You should not ask her about her family or relatives either. If you do talk about family, keep it in the immediate family and basic. You certainly do not want to introduce her to any of your relatives until you are sure about the relationship. Discourage her from introducing you to her relatives too.
Avoid talking about and introducing her to your friends
It’s best not to introduce her to your friends until you are certain about committing to her. Once you start the friends talk, conversations can get deeper. You will suddenly find yourself opening up to her and bringing up more than you bargained for.
Avoid talking about past relationships
This is a definite no-no. If she asks you about your past relationship with your ex-girlfriend, simply tell her that you don’t want to talk about your ex. If she starts to talk about her ex-boyfriend, allow her to finish the first sentence, pretend you are not interested. Immediately start talking about a different interesting topic. Maybe discuss the menu or something similar. She will get the picture.
Talk about your busy job
Conversations about jobs can be interesting yet unromantic. You can easily deflect relationship talks by talking about your busy schedules and so on. If you want to leave the date for the evening, let her know that you have a very busy day ahead of you so you have to leave soon. This is a simple step in the casual relationship direction.
Avoid romantic references
If you don’t want to enter into a committed relationship, you should not have romantic discussions. Avoid intimate conversations, like telling her that she’s sexy or that you love the highlights in her hair and so on. You can save the intimate descriptions for another date.
Avoid dating patterns
Patterns are a subtle sign of commitment. Meeting with her every Sunday at 7pm, is a sign that you are dedicating that particular time of the week solely for her. This will send the wrong signals, and soon she will always be expected to meet you each week at this time. It is best to stagger your time and days. Make it seem as though you have a lot of things to do and you can meet with her at convenient times or days. Maybe you can break your date for a while too.
Avoid meeting at intimate places
Try to meet her at loud, casual places like sports bars and amusement parks. The louder and busier the ambiance, the less likely it is that she will bring up related topics. Avoid candle light dinners, cozy night clubs and garden parks.
These tips should help in your pursuit of maintaining a casual relationship. If you do not want to get into a romantic relationship, then you should take control of the situation. Women will always try to direct you to a relationship path if you let them take control of you. Be keen on avoiding discussions that can lead to more serious encounters, while keeping things as simple and fun as possible. She will eventually realize that your aim is not to start a committed relationship, but to have a comfortable, casual friendship.