Sometimes men do things that leave one to wonder. What was he thinking? Relationships are no bed of roses; things don’t always go just as you expect them to go. Relationships end for many reasons and in many ways. There are rational and decent ways of doing everything including breaking up with your hookup girl. She might not have been your ideal girlfriend, but you both needed each other for sex. Maybe you just want to start a new relationship or she is not treating you the way she used to. Whatever the reason, you finally decided to end the relationship. You could do all the good things or just break up normal. Just avoid these 5 worst ways to break up with a girl you’re seeing just for sex.
1. Breaking up through text messaging, online chat and email
It is the age of modern technology, but that does not mean that it is appropriate to use modern devices for everything. In the past, if you wrote a woman a letter telling her that you wish to end the relationship, she would be insulted by your method. Well, breaking up through email and text messages are no different. Regardless of what you do or which device you utilize, breakups should always be done as they were in the past. The good old fashion face to face method is still the best and most polite way of breaking up even today. Come on, you see her anytime you want; she was there for you when you needed someone to share your intimate desires. Show some manliness and respect by meeting with her face to face and telling her you no longer want to hook up with her. She might not be happy about your decision, but she certainly will not feel insulted.
2. Breaking up while drunk or stoned
It’s no use breaking up with someone while you are under the influence of alcohol or drugs. You might say and do more than you mean to. You might even embarrass yourself, depending on the situation you find yourself in. When you are unable to take full control of yourself, it’s a bad idea to break the news. Moreover, if you are both stoned, this makes it worse. Just forget it until you are both in your right minds and can have a better understanding of each other.
3. Making your friends spread the news
What can be more embarrassing for a girl than seeing her hookup break up with her through someone else? Discussing your personal life with your friends and having them break the news to her is very disrespectful. Regardless of the situation, no one should have to be treated this way. Take control of your own situation, meet with her in person and tell her your situation. If your friends were not sleeping with both of you, then it is not in their place to discuss matters of your relationship with her.
4. Making excuses and avoiding her
Some men love to make excuses for everything, even where excuses are not warranted. Instead of being straightforward with the girl, they decide to tell her all sorts of stories. Suddenly they want to travel abroad, they want to be friends, and they’re moving out of town and cannot hook up again. These are some lame excuses that men give when they do not want to see a woman again. Some men go as far as to totally avoid the woman. Women often find this behavior annoying and unnecessary. Sometimes they are clueless about the situation and are left hanging, waiting for you to contact them again. Do this and hope in your guts that she does not find you, because she will be stirring madly. Be prepared for her to tell you her mind even on the street.
5. Break the news while having sex
This is possibly the worst way to break up with a girl you are seeing purely for sex. While you are both enjoying the moment of sex, you tell her that you do not want to see her anymore. This will not only spoil the mood, but it will also cause her to feel angry, hurt, used and rejected. No woman deserves to feel this way in a relationship for any reason. It all comes down to mutual respect and understanding. Do not use the act of sex as a convenient time for telling her the bad news.
When it comes to women, it is best to be manly and respectful when dealing with them. Although you are breaking up with a lady, you have to bear in mind how she will feel about it. Take care and responsibility in putting your message forward. It is always best to set a date to meet with her. Discuss your feelings and reasons for the breakup and take things from there. She might not be pleased, but she will not feel insulted, annoyed or embarrassed either.