What to Say in Your First Emails on Hookup Sites: The First Impression is EVERYTHING!
FIRST EMAIL SUMMARY: The first email you send to a chick on a hookup website is the first means of communication you have with her. It’s your first impression. Make it a good one and she’ll want to get to know you better. Make it a bad one and she’ll never so much as respond to it.
5 Steps to Writing the PERFECT First Email on a Hookup Dating Site
Step 1: Go read through her profile. Read every word of it. Learn about her interests and what she looks for in a man and what she wants in a relationship (one-night stand, regular booty call, etc.).
Step 2: Take the information you found in her profile and pick out something either you have in common with her or that you can pretend to give a damn about effectively. If you can fake that you’re interested in something she is that’s fine. If not, better find something you have in common because you’re going to use that to decide what to write about in the email.
Step 3: Think up something creative. When we say creative, we mean something completely different from a normal online dating email. Normal isn’t good enough because there are thousands of other guys on those sites doing “normal”. Want a response? Be unique.
Step 4: Use your creativity to write the perfect email. It should include everything we’ve talked about so far, along with a bit of humor and a question (VERY important to ask a question in order to get the conversation going). The email should not be any longer than 100 words (and that’s pushing it). Short. Simple. Funny. Original. Creative.
Step 5: Proofread your email. Don’t EVER type up an email to a girl and immediately send it. Have some patience. Sometimes you type something up that sounds great. Then you read it back and it sounds dumb. Before sending the email, make sure you proofread it to see if it still sounds good.
3 Email Examples NEVER to Use:
We’ve given you some general ideas of what to say on a hookup dating siteemail. Now we’re going to teach you what NOT to say. As a general rule, your emails should NOT include the following…
- Perverted, graphic sexual comments (just because you’re both only looking for a hookup doesn’t mean this is a topic that should be discussed upfront).
- A plethora of spelling and grammar mistakes. You’re not in second grade. Learn how to write!
- Rude comments. Obviously you should never verbally attack her in a hookup dating email.
- Too many compliments. “You’re so sexy”, “you have a great ass”, etc. are not necessary in the first message on a hookup online dating site. One compliment about her hair, eyes, smile, or style is fine. Anything more than that comes off as fake. You’d be surprised…women actually don’t like being called “hot” as much as you’d think.
And now the BAD examples…
“Just flipped through your profile and daaaammmnn girl, you are freakin’ sexy as all hell! I wanna get to know you better. How bout you give me a call tonight and we’ll plan a time to get together for drinks?”
What’s wrong with it? Overall, it’s just plain lame. This sounds like an email that was sent to 100 different girls. No originality and appears to be written by a 21-year old wannabe player.
“Hi! I’m so glad to meet you. I really think you’re a pretty girl and am interested in getting to know you better. I’m 25 years old from Orlando. Do you think we could chat sometime?”
What’s wrong with it? It’s boring as hell. It’s not original. The guy writing it doesn’t seem like a douchebag or a pervert, but he sounds kind of boring. It’s another email that was probably sent to 100 different girls.
“I’m going to be straight up with you…when I saw your pics I became aroused. My cock got up to the full 8 inches about 10 seconds later. You’re so sexy. Just looking at your pics has me thinking about all the naughty things I wanna do to you. How’s about you come over Saturday night and I will bend you over and do you so hard you won’t walk straight for a week?”
What’s wrong with it? This guy is WAY too upfront about his intentions and perverted. He’s very blunt. Again, even though it’s an adult sex site, you need to introduce yourself in a manner that isn’t perverted.
And now a GOOD example…
“Why is everything on this site about sex? Okay, sure that’s kinda sorta what we’re here for. But I think sex is far better when it’s with a girl I can connect with on a personal level. Judging by your profile, you and I would connect on a personal level well too. You’re definitely a sarcastic smartass and I like that because, well…that’s the way I am. I bet we could have some ridiculously silly conversations and then maybe we’ll see what those conversations lead to. Anyway, how long have you lived here and what exactly are you looking for?”
Why it’s a good email? It’s not cheesy or canned. This guy actually mentioned something from her profile (noted that she’s a sarcastic smartass). There were no perverted comments and light humor was mixed in. If you use an email like this, you’ll do just fine.